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This week’s assignment: Give Me 5 positive traits or accomplishments you admired in a person or persons that you aren’t getting along with or have hurt or offended you in the past.

1- My soon-to-be (said hopefully)ex: He has always been a very hard worker.

2- “K”, someone I was best friends with for over 20 years (we are no longer friends): She had a good eye for decorating.

3- My Mom: Her wicked sense of humor. Her strong will and determination, even in the worst of times.

4- My Dad: His intelligence.

5- A previous boss, “I”: She was usually very fair.

I really like this week’s theme. I think it’s healthy to take some of the focus off of the negative by remembering something positive!

Warning: Author is in the midst of a serious case of PMS. Proceed at your own risk!

• It’s freezing in NJ!
• The stbx is still dragging his feet and refusing to give in cooperate. My daughter informed me that he purchased new carpeting and new furniture last week, and he’s thinking about buying a flat-screen tv. But, when he lies talks to me, he’s “broke.”
• Still haven’t found a source of income.
• My back has been hurting me off and on (mostly on lately) for the last seven months. I’m in NJ, my doctor is in PA, and I have no way to get to her.
• My 40th birthday is in three weeks–how much does that suck?!
• I’m PMSing BIG time (poor T!).

On the plus side…

• My kids are healthy and happy.
• Spring will eventually be here.
• I am loved by some incredible people!
• As for the stbx: What goes around comes around.
• I have my internet connection!

No word on the interview I had last Friday.  But, I really didn’t expect to hear anything until the end of the week anyway.  Still, it would be nice to get a call with a job offer today!

Also, the STBX (soon-to-be-ex) has not responded to my counter-offer in regard to his latest joke attempt at a settlement.  That was six days ago.  I expected him to come back with something much quicker this time because I thought there was only one point he’d choke on (the $ issue).  Maybe I was wrong…  Stubborn man!

It’s difficult pretending to be patient with this (ie:  not calling him and asking WTF his problem is!).  But, I figure if he knows how anxious I am to be divorced from his sorry ass him, he’ll become even greedier (if that’s possible!).

So, I continue to wait…and hope…

The soon-to-be-ex has finally made a settlement offer that appears as if he may be trying to negotiate a little bit!  Of course, it wasn’t nearly everything I had asked for (which isn’t much!), so I counter-offered, showing (once again) that I’m willing to compromise if he is.

I’m trying not to get my hopes up that the end could really be near, but I just can’t help it!  We’ve been separated for over 16 months now, and it would be so nice just to be divorced at last!  So, I can’t help it, I’m an optimistic person by nature, I’m hoping this is it!

Wonder how long I’ll have to wait for his response this time…

Still no forward movement on my divorce.

My soon-to-be-ex recently offered me $600 as a divorce settlement. Yeah, I laughed too!

Now my lawyer wants another $1,000 to continue working on the case. I don’t have $1,000 to give her, and all I can see that the first $1,000 got me was her filing the divorce petition–pretty expensive!

The waiting continues…