Real World Mom

The ‘Give Me Five’ Monday meme is designed to share fun information with each other in a simple, short list! Here’s how it works: Each week, I will put out a random topic from my list of topics and you share 5 answers of your choice on the given topic and link back here! You can add photos, links or stories or just a simple list of your own of 5 things that relate to the topic as it pertains to you and your life experiences. It doesn’t have to be in any order of importance unless otherwise specified.Sign up for weekly reminder emails at beccagirl@charter.net.

This week’s assignment from Becca at BeccA’s Buzz: Give Me Five future events you are currently looking forward to and/or planning on attending.

1. Getting a damn job. Sad but true.
2. Starting school in September (yay me!).
3. Buying a car (after I get the damn job).
4. Regaining my independence.
5. Receiving the final divorce papers. (Hopefully someday in this lifetime.)

Originally posted on 12/12/07, “Perfectionism”, is still something I struggle with.

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Perfectionism

Why is it that we are so often our own worst critics? It can be a very difficult way of life, when we are consistently putting ourselves down, telling ourselves that what we do isn’t good enough, that we’re not good enough…So we try harder, determined to make every endeavor turn out perfectly. But, every endeavor does not turn out perfectly (in fact, probably very few do), and we are left feeling even worse about ourselves and our abilities.

In my own personal situation, I think this was a contributing factor to my Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) diagnosis. I remember my doctor telling me, “You can’t be ’super mom’, you can’t do it all!” I’ve reminded myself of that quite often over the years, and it does help fairly often.

It’s not as though the world expects us to be perfect in everything we say and everything we do–so why do we put that unrealistic expectation on ourselves? Will your son love you less because your boss got upset with you yesterday? Do you think your husband will sleep on the couch if there’s a dish in the sink? Does your daughter avoid you because you’re having a bad hair day? Surely your best friend will simply refuse to go to the mall with you because you haven’t picked up that dry cleaning yet!

This all sounds silly, but, the bottom line is, that’s what it’s really all about. Your family and friends love you–imperfections and all! We need to look at ourselves with that same kind of love, care and understanding that those close to us do–and give ourselves a break!!

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Caroline over at The Bingham Diaries (also author of Menu Planning 101) tagged me for the Seven Random Facts Meme. Due to the fact that I’m in love with Caroline, I am posting this immediately!

Post 7 random facts about yourself– The Rules:

1. Link to your tagger and post these rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog, some random, some weird.
3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.
4. Let them know they are tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Remember, Caroline asked for it!
1~ I am addicted to text messaging.
2~ Yesterday, I was accepted as a contributor for the soon-to-be-live
New Jersey Moms Blog. (Woohoo!)
3~ I need a good divorce attorney (but can’t afford to pay one).
4~ The Salty Mooch is my newest blog. (If you love dogs, go check it out!)
5~ I’m a ‘Linux Chick’! Ubuntu Gutsy Gibbon 7.10 to be exact.
6~ I’d like to have a rabbit as a pet.
7~ I have three tattoos–and I want more.

My victims:

Becca (BeccA’s Buzz), Tara (If Mom Says Ok), Tammy (Mom Knows Everything), Heather (Singing With My Heart), Janice (Twist & Skewer) and Karen MEG (A Day in the Life…One Glass at a Time).

The ‘Give Me Five’ Monday meme is designed to share fun information with each other in a simple, short list! Here’s how it works: Each week, I will put out a random topic from my list of topics and you share 5 answers of your choice on the given topic and link back here! You can add photos, links or stories or just a simple list of your own of 5 things that relate to the topic as it pertains to you and your life experiences. It doesn’t have to be in any order of importance unless otherwise specified.Sign up for weekly reminder emails at beccagirl@charter.net.

This week’s assignment from Becca at BeccA’s Buzz: Give Me Five favorite memories from your Easter day 2008.

1. I got to sleep in!
2. Ate [too much] yummy food!
3. Lots of chocolate (can someone please come hide it from me now??)!
4. Spent time with family
5. Best of all:  It was my daughter’s 13th birthday!  (Happy Birthday, B!!)

Happy Easter from our home to yours!